From childhood a gay boy or a girl begins to experience the difficulties of heterocentric confrontation with the world around them. In the film the plot is always the protagonist's love story ending in a marriage between a man and a woman, the songs tell of love ethers, family education is always directed to assign well-defined roles for boys and girls to second schemas. Girls are given away early dolls, because their future will be to mothers and wives are expected to show gay stories can push a child to homosexuality, when they could raise it to recognize other ways of life. All this could create confusion in a child begins to believe that homosexual desires and some incorrect behavior because they do not conform with what surrounds him and what he was taught.
Confusion also reports that during his growth as its orientation, being part of everyone, can not be changed at will. This confusion delayed the phase of self-awareness, rather it is likely to remain for years in a limbo of feelings without realizing what they like and gratify the dissatisfaction he feels and lives.
Self-awareness, in fact, can be reached at any age, often living alone in their desires, feelings that do not match those of many who know and frequent. You do not know others with which to compare, relate and share emotions and this is surrounded in solitude; know that you are not alone, that there are others who experience the same feelings, facilitates self acceptance and mutual growth. Living repressing its orientation, without being aware of it, without accepting it, leading to conform to the known model of relationship and then get married, You can even have children, and live their miserable condition.
Many, of course, this condition can not hold forever, and they are bisexual or homosexual, will tend to look at some point in every case the objects of their desire and living situations often alternatives to marriage, seeking whom he may meet hidden desires. Very often they can be just stories of sex or relationships, for fear of hurting their children, to loved ones will never have the future and will add more suffering to that already experienced in their lives.
Being self-aware means being aware of how it is able to express their desires and be able to design their lives in a responsible and independent. If you want to have a relationship lasting, it would be necessary, first of all, be comfortable with yourself and then you might be comfortable with others.
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